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When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, You have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldnít feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, You have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not to talk or do - just hear me.
Advice is cheap; Twenty five cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself; Iím not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, You contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, it may seem easier for me to quit trying to convince you and I can get about the business of understanding whatís behind this seemingly irrational feeling.
And when thatís clear, the answers are obvious and I donít need advice. Feelings make sense and are respectable. When we understand whatís behind them.
Those who care enough to just listen communicate that they have faith that you can work things out for yourself.
So, please listen and just hear me. And, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and Iíll listen to you.